An Introduction To One Spirit Coaching; Offerings

Peter E. Lanzillotta, Ph.D.

Contact: 843-810-2808

Skype: 843-277-9602


“If the path before you is clear,

you’re probably on someone else’s.”

-Joseph Campbell

“Yesterday, I was clever, so I wanted to change the world.

Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.”


“Pursue some path, however narrow and crooked,

in which you can walk with love and reverence.”

-Henry David Thoreau


Has your life lost its meaning? Would you like to find a way out that inspires you again? Do you feel lost, or do you feel as if there is little hope that you will find your heartfelt purpose? Do you want to define yourself as a spiritual person, but really do not know what that means? Would you like to find your key that unlocks and opens the door of your heart to love, forgiveness, and peace? Do you feel that God listens to you, or does it feel that when you call or pray, God is not home? All too often, our problems are hidden in plain sight… Yet, we do not know how or where to look! That’s where working with a Spiritual Life Coach comes in!

Here is a brief sample of the kinds of situations I have successfully worked with and that my open minded and non-dogmatic approach to spiritual coaching addresses:

During Times of Loss and Transition;

Offering effective coping skills that help you to reach a better understanding of how best to honor grief, and come to a greater appreciation of life;

When you desire to find a way out from dependency, attachment, or addictions;

Wanting to become a more spiritual partner and/or to find a transformational basis for your relationships;

When you are in search of values and guidelines for living a clear, kind, and compassionate life;

Wondering and searching for what you can do to regain a sense of peace, harmony, healing, and gratitude.


As a progressive and inclusive former parish minister and as non-Roman, non traditional liberal priest for over 25 years, who has additional graduate level training as a spiritual director, and holds a doctorate in theology and spirituality, I know that I can guide you on the path to discovering your own answers.

As an interfaith theologian, someone who understands and practices the insights and wisdom of both East and West, I am uniquely qualified to be your spiritual guide. I can expertly accompany you through the process of asking soulful questions- That process of asking yourself how best you can open to those inquiries of the heart and mind. In your earnest search, and through your courageous questioning, you will discover where your next steps in self discovery are and what exploring the many paths towards spiritual unfoldment hold for you!

Through our collaborative dialogues, I will be your spiritual companion and your knowledgeable guide who welcomes the discussion of any questions that your earnest explorations might uncover. From my own questioning, and my own life experiences and knowledge, I will encourage your personal search, provide you with valuable resources, and adeptly assist you in your search for your own soulful truths.


Over my decades of service, both within church life and as a guide to many sincere seekers, I have been given the opportunity and the privilege to accompany many people. In our dialogues and coaching sessions, I encouraged and supported their quest for their truthful, and sometimes unexpected, but truly transformative answers.

Some people have sought me out because they are curious about spiritual ideas, paths, and techniques for greater inner development. Most often, however, people come to me when they are having difficulty searching for a more spiritual understanding or they contact me when they are seeking a deeper soulful and sustaining answer during a personal crisis.

Because I am no stranger to both the grit and the grace of these acute and sometimes prolonged struggles, my hard earned personal experiences have taught me that sometimes it takes perseverance and wisdom, peace and compassion for yourself (which on some days can be hard to find), so I know that my insights and my life lessons will assist you in dealing with your tests and trials.

Bearing witness to how people can heal, how they can accept and integrate change, how they endure and can come to understand, and how they can deepen and spiritually mature have been a treasure chest of learning and blessing for me…


All too often, we live in such a daily rush that we can easily ignore a spiritual problem until it has developed into more painful or troublesome physical and emotional symptoms such as: Chronic stress; self medicating activities like drinking or drugs; difficult relationship patterns or problems; anxieties and depressive moods; feeling at a loss with no where to turn, etc. … Sometimes the best answer is to seek out immediate professional help to learn how to quickly understand and manage any difficulties you are facing… Sometimes, what fosters the lasting change you seek, requires you to take a larger view. The complex nature of the healing and transformative work you will have to do will take time, and it will take you deeper… Discovering more of who you are, and what your path and purpose in this life truly includes!

While health care professionals are a valuable resource, most are not well acquainted with the timeless traditions of spiritual practice that are found in humankind’s great religious traditions, which have always been a rich repository of wisdom and offer us invaluable and powerful tools for our transformation.

(In fact, there are a lot of clergy who have not taken the opportunity to discern their own spiritual path, or who have not spent much time in meditation or introspection- learning the many gifts of mysticism and inner knowledge!)

As your spiritual life coach, I can give you the benefit of my 30 years of spiritual discovery; my journeys into the wisdom traditions of both East and West; and share with you the various aspects of the struggle to become authentically spiritual or what it means to become more readily attuned to the Spirit’s sources, for transformation that will affect the quality of your daily life.

Increasingly, we have learned that a greater sense of wholeness can come from a deeper sense of personal awareness. It has been documented that newly integrated spiritual perspectives will contribute to improve your health, your relationships, and how such integration can give you insights into the importance of love, forgiveness, acceptance, and compassion.


While it is true that we live our lives according to clock time and calendars, there is another form of time that is recorded in our souls. It is a timetable generally unknown in the outside world, except when it is triggered by crisis, or by a chance encounter. It is a quality of time that is better understood when we listen to the guidance we receive from our inner urges, or learn from how we are dissatisfied with the feeling of emptiness in modern life.

People who pursue greater spiritual meaning to life’s various challenges and experiences come to understand that there is also God’s time (Kairos) which comes to us in unexpected, often gracious and spontaneous ways. Everyone I know has had those times… Those flashes of insight, those special dreams, those events that shake and shape us in ways unimaginable…)

(I discuss this concept further in my book, Spirit, Time, and The Future… published by Outskirts Press 2011)

Who do you go to when these acts of God, these times of unsettling or transformative grace occur? Who, in your circle of friends and family, can truly assist you in coming to your own understanding, or to a deeper appreciation of those moments that are filled with mystery, magic, and meaning?

Because of my accumulated life experiences, and my deep appreciation for the wellsprings of wisdom and discovery that are to be found in those times and places, I know that I can be your coach and your soulful guide…

Initial Call/Consultation is free: Astrology Charts and Spiritual Life Coaching are on a sliding scale.

Peter E. Lanzillotta, Ph.D.

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Have You Ever Had A Spiritual Checkup?

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Over my many years in ministry, I have often heard people take about their health… When they are speaking in positive terms, they will declare enthusiastically to me, ” I have just gone for my annual check up, and everything is fine!” I will affirm their positive feelings, and show my support for how well they are taking care of their health…

However, because this common tendency that gets repeated often, it began to make me think about all the other kinds of check ups people need to give themselves on a regular basis: A mental health checkup? An emotional health check up? A financial check up? A relationship check up? A family and friends check up?  Maybe even a spiritual life check up?

As an advocate for regular self-care, knowing full well that we live our lives in and through many dimensions of wellness and concern, I would declare that taking the time to do self inventory in any or all of these various ways, would be beneficial, revealing, and instructive for us all!

Most of us, if we are at all mindful, take a little time around New Years and making our resolutions, or maybe we pause during our birthday week to look back over our year or look retrospectively at our lives. Courageously, we can begin to ask ourselves some probing questions about how our lives have turned out so far, or what new ways that promote change or growth are we now willing to consider? We inquire about any changes in our central motives for our lives, our reasons and choices, and our feelings about how well we have lived, and what ways could it have been better, healthier, more balanced or acted with more clarity.

One of the self inventory questions that I will regularly ask myself is the one first presented to me by the clinical psychologist and Buddhist teacher, Jack Kornfield. In his writings, he said that the essence or the essentials of life can be found if we ask ourselves two questions: “How well have I lived?” “How openly have I loved?”

As a spiritual seeker who has studied the great spiritual traditions of the world, I appreciate the many inspiring sources the world religions can off to us in helping us to answer the questions of meaning and purpose in our lives. As my career proceeded from being a psychotherapist, to an inclusive parish minister and liberal priest, to my present work as an interfaith theologian, I have asked myself these kinds of questions, and have benefited greatly from the insights and the challenges that came to me.

Now, as I have extended my definition of ministry and advocacy beyond the confines of offering spiritual direction to become an interfaith spiritual life coach, I am welcoming people to the process of taking a spiritual check up, and working with them to see how their spiritual and religious ideas are working for them.
Currently, I am accepting new clients who wish to explore their life journey with me, and through our sessions, we will work collaboratively to discover the answers that will promote greater understanding, an expanded sense of wellness and wholeness, and a larger view of harmony and happiness, in their lives.

You can contact me at: 843-732-2994 or 843-810-2808

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Summer Solstice 2018; Relationships, Power and Truth

Reflections on the Summer Solstice 2018

In the Northern Hemisphere, we are upon the Summer Solstice 2018. The Summer Solstice is the longest day of the year… The day with the most sunlight, and it marks the entry point into the Northern Hemisphere summer season by marking 0 degrees of Cancer…

Of course, more than a calendar date, or one fixed by the longitude and latitude we live in, symbolically the Solstice invites us to expand energy.

It asks us to live and grow in light, and to be more expressive of our gifts and talents. Each person has talents for all of us to share.

Summer Solstice 2018

In astrology, the Solstice offers us a time to look at the larger picture.

Since there is a Solstice every six months, we are offered a way to look at the next half year and evaluate possibilities.

The Summer Solstice 2018 chart is filled with conflicting and competing energies. It suggests a dynamic and highly expressive time for society.

It is a time when the head and heart are estranged, and bogged down in legalisms. We may forget there are higher laws of human interaction, such as empathy and compassion.

Mercury conflicts both the Moon and Pluto, making appeals to power instead of urging for dialogue and discretion. While honesty is prized, truth is delivered in a way that is defiant or brutish.

Exposure to facts (versus creating our own facts) are tested for their ability to convey important messages.


Grand Trine

In Astrological language, there is a grand trine in the water signs. This means there are cooperative energies that seek positive outcomes.

This pattern among the planets moderates ongoing difficulties some of us have in dealing with money matters and questions of ownership/responsibility.

Also, the Trine works to soften or respond to governmental policies and priorities in more beneficial ways. This especially concerns outlooks out of touch with the feelings of citizens or “the heart of our nation.”

Summer Solstice 2018 and Relationships

Relationships and loyalties of almost every kind will be tested…In one way, it is a culmination of the “Me, too!” movement. In addition, it is a seed time when new patterns of egalitarian and responsible behavior will struggle to emerge.

Astrologically, we have a tense and prolonged opposition forming between Venus and Mars. It will last for some time because of the impeding Mars retrograde motion. Even more, it will be an electric and highly charged time for relationships. Further, it is a time period where impulsive and charismatic connections can overwhelm any deeper connections.

Lastly, it is a time that requires us to carefully evaluate how our energies are used. Strong relationships endure and survive. Others will encounter substantial trials aroun the issues of freedom and the need for connection…

(More about that in my next New Moon report… subscribe at the end of this article).

A love note from an online Abbess, by Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, REACE

“Dearest monks and artists,

“In the northern hemisphere we approach the celebration of the summer solstice, the longest day.

“The seasons are connected to the different cardinal directions, as well as the four elements.

“Hildegard of Bingen, a 12th century Benedictine Abbess, allied the direction of the south and the season of summer with the element of fire. We find a similar connection in the Native American Cherokee tradition and in the Irish Celtic tradition.

“We might think of summer as the season of fire and stoking our passions. It is the season of coming to fullness connected to the Hour of noon and midday, when the sun reaches its peak in the sky.

It is the time of fruitfulness, when blossom gives way to sweet abundance of berries and peaches, delicate lettuces and gorgeous tomatoes.

“To honor the coming of summer in ritual, consider facing the direction of the south and taking some deep breaths.

Let your breath draw your awareness down to your heart center, the place where the mystics tell us the living flame of love dwells within us. You might place a candle on your altar to remember the fire alive within you and the world.

“Spend some time in meditation on what your own passions are. What would you like to kindle? Where have been the sparks of joy in your life? What is coming to full fruitfulness? How might you welcome in your own growing fullness?”

Solstice Blessings,

Peter Lanzillotta, Ph.D.

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Reference: Christine Valters Paintner, PhD, REACE. “A love note from your online Abbess.” Abbey of The Arts. Retrieved from
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